UGH I need advice...women not deer...
11-06-2008, 04:54 AM
#41
Nontypical Buck
Join Date: Aug 2005
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RE: UGH I need advice...women not deer...
You talk to her and honestly tel her that this is an opportunity to spend an extra day with your father doing some thing that you both share and enjoy very much.I would definitely let her know that hunting is a very significant part of your life and that it will be some thing that you spend considerable time doing.I think one of the biggest considerations when finding a mate is finding some one who is independant,someone who can function and be happy with their own interest's.You want a woman that is secure,not someone who uses these things as a test as to what you care for more.
The flip side of this is that when you are not hunting you need to be attentive and considerate to her and also encourage her to participate in things that are important to her.
The flip side of this is that when you are not hunting you need to be attentive and considerate to her and also encourage her to participate in things that are important to her.
11-06-2008, 05:44 AM
#42
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RE: UGH I need advice...women not deer...
ORIGINAL: Finch
LOL....you reminded me of a joke my friend told me.
Disclaimer: I'm not condoning spousal abuse, he is ^^^^^.[8D]
ORIGINAL: MOTOWNHONKEY
Just bust her in the mouth a couple of times and tell her to have the house cleaned and a hot dinner ready when you get back.
Just bust her in the mouth a couple of times and tell her to have the house cleaned and a hot dinner ready when you get back.
What do you tell a woman with two black eyes? Nothing, you've told her twice.
Disclaimer: I'm not condoning spousal abuse, he is ^^^^^.[8D]
....................The dishes if she knows whats good for her!
11-06-2008, 05:45 AM
#43
Dominant Buck
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RE: UGH I need advice...women not deer...
She has to under stand your passion, just as you do hers. If she doesn't understand how important hunting is to you then you need to let her know.
I'm glad I met Lisa when I did. I wasn't "ready" for a LADY such as her as a younger man.My question would be.....Was she excited for you RE: the original dates of the trip? Was she genuinely excited FOR you? If so....I don't see how adding a day to a wonderful trip would bother her so?????
My wife understands the things other than her I hold dear. She doesn't prey on me and use those to her advantage, though. BUT.....when she calls....I come running. When she asks....I drop everything and do for/with her. It's a trump card used sparingly, though....and I NEVER begrudge her for playing it. This morning I'm going over to my in-laws to put up their new storm door. I'll do so, gladly....in lieu of hunting, this morning. She asked. I'll jump.
If you ever saw the movie 'Phenomenon'....you'll recall the scene when John Travolta's character was buying up his love interest's (Kyra Sedgewick)chairs she was making....even though they weren't the greatest chairs in the world (he bought them all,anonymously,and stored them up in his shed). He bought them because he wanted her to feel good about herself.....and because it helped her out, financially. There was a scene later in the movie where Robert Duvall's character was telling someone about it......and he asked another guy in the movie if he'd ever "bought his wife's chairs". It was a great, POWERFULline....and I've never forgotten it.
I "Buy Lisa's chairs" whenever I can. She needs to buy yours, now.
Understand what makes her tick.....and do things for her out of love. If she doesn't return the sentiment....I'd say you may not have found "the one". I wouldn't be surprised if that's true at 23. I'm not sure many are ready for the whole "chair" reference at that age. I know I wasn't.Good luck to you.
Oh yeah.....The preacher is a smart man.
11-06-2008, 05:48 AM
#44
Fork Horn
Join Date: Sep 2007
Location: Warren, MI
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RE: UGH I need advice...women not deer...
Go hunting........ if you start giving up hunting for her now you will never get it back especially if you marry her and have kids etc..... Good Luck hunting and my money says if she is the one she will be there when you get back.
11-06-2008, 05:51 AM
#45
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RE: UGH I need advice...women not deer...
ORIGINAL: GMMAT
Resume'.....I was single for 39 years and married the greatest lady in the world. There's a reason I was single that many years....and it doesn't mean "they" were always the problem. I'm glad I met Lisa when I did. I wasn't "ready" for a LADY such as her as a younger man.
My question would be.....Was she excited for you RE: the original dates of the trip? Was she genuinely excited FOR you? If so....I don't see how adding a day to a wonderful trip would bother her so?????
My wife understands the things other than her I hold dear. She doesn't prey on me and use those to her advantage, though. BUT.....when she calls....I come running. When she asks....I drop everything and do for/with her. It's a trump card used sparingly, though....and I NEVER begrudge her for playing it. This morning I'm going over to my in-laws to put up their new storm door. I'll do so, gladly....in lieu of hunting, this morning. She asked. I'll jump.
If you ever saw the movie 'Phenomenon'....you'll recall the scene when John Travolta's character was buying up his love interest's (Kyra Sedgewick)chairs she was making....even though they weren't the greatest chairs in the world (he bought them all,anonymously,and stored them up in his shed). He bought them because he wanted her to feel good about herself.....and because it helped her out, financially. There was a scene later in the movie where Robert Duvall's character was telling someone about it......and he asked another guy in the movie if he'd ever "bought his wife's chairs". It was a great, POWERFULline....and I've never forgotten it.
I "Buy Lisa's chairs" whenever I can. She needs to buy yours, now. Understand what makes her tick.....and do things for her out of love. If she doesn't return the sentiment....I'd say you may not have found "the one". I wouldn't be surprised if that's true at 23. I'm not sure many are ready for the whole "chair" reference at that age. I know I wasn't.
Good luck to you.
Oh yeah.....The preacher is a smart man.
She has to under stand your passion, just as you do hers. If she doesn't understand how important hunting is to you then you need to let her know.
I'm glad I met Lisa when I did. I wasn't "ready" for a LADY such as her as a younger man.My question would be.....Was she excited for you RE: the original dates of the trip? Was she genuinely excited FOR you? If so....I don't see how adding a day to a wonderful trip would bother her so?????
My wife understands the things other than her I hold dear. She doesn't prey on me and use those to her advantage, though. BUT.....when she calls....I come running. When she asks....I drop everything and do for/with her. It's a trump card used sparingly, though....and I NEVER begrudge her for playing it. This morning I'm going over to my in-laws to put up their new storm door. I'll do so, gladly....in lieu of hunting, this morning. She asked. I'll jump.
If you ever saw the movie 'Phenomenon'....you'll recall the scene when John Travolta's character was buying up his love interest's (Kyra Sedgewick)chairs she was making....even though they weren't the greatest chairs in the world (he bought them all,anonymously,and stored them up in his shed). He bought them because he wanted her to feel good about herself.....and because it helped her out, financially. There was a scene later in the movie where Robert Duvall's character was telling someone about it......and he asked another guy in the movie if he'd ever "bought his wife's chairs". It was a great, POWERFULline....and I've never forgotten it.
I "Buy Lisa's chairs" whenever I can. She needs to buy yours, now.
Understand what makes her tick.....and do things for her out of love. If she doesn't return the sentiment....I'd say you may not have found "the one". I wouldn't be surprised if that's true at 23. I'm not sure many are ready for the whole "chair" reference at that age. I know I wasn't.Good luck to you.
Oh yeah.....The preacher is a smart man.
Wow, that was deep dude....I need a drink after that one
11-06-2008, 06:13 AM
#47
Nontypical Buck
Join Date: Feb 2007
Location: West Tennessee
Posts: 2,333
RE: UGH I need advice...women not deer...
ORIGINAL: GMMAT
Resume'.....I was single for 39 years and married the greatest lady in the world. There's a reason I was single that many years....and it doesn't mean "they" were always the problem. I'm glad I met Lisa when I did. I wasn't "ready" for a LADY such as her as a younger man.
My question would be.....Was she excited for you RE: the original dates of the trip? Was she genuinely excited FOR you? If so....I don't see how adding a day to a wonderful trip would bother her so?????
My wife understands the things other than her I hold dear. She doesn't prey on me and use those to her advantage, though. BUT.....when she calls....I come running. When she asks....I drop everything and do for/with her. It's a trump card used sparingly, though....and I NEVER begrudge her for playing it. This morning I'm going over to my in-laws to put up their new storm door. I'll do so, gladly....in lieu of hunting, this morning. She asked. I'll jump.
If you ever saw the movie 'Phenomenon'....you'll recall the scene when John Travolta's character was buying up his love interest's (Kyra Sedgewick)chairs she was making....even though they weren't the greatest chairs in the world (he bought them all,anonymously,and stored them up in his shed). He bought them because he wanted her to feel good about herself.....and because it helped her out, financially. There was a scene later in the movie where Robert Duvall's character was telling someone about it......and he asked another guy in the movie if he'd ever "bought his wife's chairs". It was a great, POWERFULline....and I've never forgotten it.
I "Buy Lisa's chairs" whenever I can. She needs to buy yours, now. Understand what makes her tick.....and do things for her out of love. If she doesn't return the sentiment....I'd say you may not have found "the one". I wouldn't be surprised if that's true at 23. I'm not sure many are ready for the whole "chair" reference at that age. I know I wasn't.
Good luck to you.
Oh yeah.....The preacher is a smart man.
She has to under stand your passion, just as you do hers. If she doesn't understand how important hunting is to you then you need to let her know.
I'm glad I met Lisa when I did. I wasn't "ready" for a LADY such as her as a younger man.My question would be.....Was she excited for you RE: the original dates of the trip? Was she genuinely excited FOR you? If so....I don't see how adding a day to a wonderful trip would bother her so?????
My wife understands the things other than her I hold dear. She doesn't prey on me and use those to her advantage, though. BUT.....when she calls....I come running. When she asks....I drop everything and do for/with her. It's a trump card used sparingly, though....and I NEVER begrudge her for playing it. This morning I'm going over to my in-laws to put up their new storm door. I'll do so, gladly....in lieu of hunting, this morning. She asked. I'll jump.
If you ever saw the movie 'Phenomenon'....you'll recall the scene when John Travolta's character was buying up his love interest's (Kyra Sedgewick)chairs she was making....even though they weren't the greatest chairs in the world (he bought them all,anonymously,and stored them up in his shed). He bought them because he wanted her to feel good about herself.....and because it helped her out, financially. There was a scene later in the movie where Robert Duvall's character was telling someone about it......and he asked another guy in the movie if he'd ever "bought his wife's chairs". It was a great, POWERFULline....and I've never forgotten it.
I "Buy Lisa's chairs" whenever I can. She needs to buy yours, now.
Understand what makes her tick.....and do things for her out of love. If she doesn't return the sentiment....I'd say you may not have found "the one". I wouldn't be surprised if that's true at 23. I'm not sure many are ready for the whole "chair" reference at that age. I know I wasn't.Good luck to you.
Oh yeah.....The preacher is a smart man.
I agree with everything PT said except for the last one... putting the seat down. It's WAY too much fun to hear that shriek in the rare event she sits down without looking.
Besides, if I've gotta put it up, she's gotta put it down.[8D] Seriously, though.... There is a lot of comedy in our home, and it's all healthy.
11-06-2008, 06:24 AM
#49
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RE: UGH I need advice...women not deer...
ORIGINAL: Kamil
If she really cares about you that much she'lll understand your passion and won't mind you going on your trip.
If she really cares about you that much she'lll understand your passion and won't mind you going on your trip.
In the situation as described in this thread, she doesn't seem to have a good reason, so he should go hunting the extra day, but be sensitive to her wanting him to not go ....IMO
Bottom line in relationships ...... One doesn't have to understand WHY the other does what they do, they just need to understand that it is important to them to do it ..
11-06-2008, 06:25 AM
#50
Nontypical Buck
Join Date: May 2006
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RE: UGH I need advice...women not deer...
Keep in mind Brent that most of these guys are sackless and don't follow their own advise.
Pick your battles and for me hunting was my biggest. I'm a family legend for going away for a week of hunting when my daughter was ten days old. I called my wife her to tell her about a nice little buck and she wasdeep in some hormone induced hysteria.
I packed up and went home.
Pick your battles and for me hunting was my biggest. I'm a family legend for going away for a week of hunting when my daughter was ten days old. I called my wife her to tell her about a nice little buck and she wasdeep in some hormone induced hysteria.
I packed up and went home.