I have been shooting the CCI 209 shot gun primers and my dad and little brother have been shooting the winchester 209 shotgun primers, is there a difference in the 2 or are they about the same thing?

They should be pretty much the same since they have to meet the industry standards.
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cci 209 shotgun primers i like the best. They are clean and they dont expand into the breechplug hole. the winchester w209's were pretty dirty and expanded greatly. Used to have to use a knife and pry those out.