cheaper to keeper

That is nothing that we can decide for you. If you can not trust her though it sounds like you will always have a problem. It would be better for the child if the two of you can work things out in a freindly manner and stay together. However, if that can not be done and you are only doing it for the child and arguments are occuring all the time, that is bad.

You know why divorce costs so much? Because it's worth it. I have no expirience in this, I just remember reading that once.

*puts on the dunce cap*

my wife and I ran thru a problem like that a while ago, less than a yr ago, my fault completely, without going into details it boiled down to a trust problem on her part and I was the cause... we've been working it out... but saying it's easy would be disingenuous... for the sake of the kid, you should try to work it out... if you can't, then you've gotta leave cuz it can be worse for the kid to have a poor example of a relationship if you are fighting and etc around him/her... your kid is the priority and you guys need to talk about it in order to work it out... respectfully of course... yelling and cursing each other will make it worse...

Go to counseling first!!!! See if you can work it out with a counselor before you throw away your marriage. If I were in your shoes I would want to know I tried every possible avenue before throwing in the the towel.

If you go to counseling and it works out you have saved your marriage, if it doesn't, then you know in your heart you did every thing you could possibly do. This to me equals a win win situation, just my .02 cents.

ever notice how "therapist" really spells The Rapist???

Only you can make this decision, I know I tried everything to keep my first marriage together, she didn't want to stay together. It cost me
40,000 but today I am happy, she is miserable. The grass is not always
greener on the other side.

Man, don't give up hope. Seek both individual and joint counselling and do everything you can to save it. It isn't easy, but do it for yourself, your relationshipand your child. It takes both to fix what is broken. I know that of which I speak. It has taken 10 years to fix a problem in my marriage but it was worth it. Then change your signature line from "we interrupt this marriage for hunting season". Attitudes like this even if unspoken are easily picked up on. If it seems more than you can handle, seek guidance from "a higher authority" (God as you may see him). Good luck and don't cave in to the easy path.

Haha is Fraley only out to get some tail?!

All good advice, but I'll give you some based on my experience. There is nothing wrong with trying to save your marriage, but be prepared.

Hide any sentimental family items of yours.

Hide any vehicle titles.

Don't underestimate her. They will do things you never imagined and will justify every bit of it.

You might even consider hiring a private investigator.

I know these aren't pleasant thoughts, but again, I'm speaking from experience. Very expensive experience.

tough situation man. would be nice to know more details, especially the specifics about the lying and such....