Am I being unfair??? (long story)
#21
Nontypical Buck
Join Date: Apr 2004
Posts: 3,236
RE: Am I being unfair??? (long story)
Go alone. You can do it. What you goof up will make you learn. Go out, spend the whole day by yourself, learning how. Nobody to talk to, nobody to look at....it's wonderful. When you get that deer, it will be even more satisfying than you ever imagined. Don't rely on someone else, rely on yourself. Don't be envious of that guy either. Envy is a deadly sin, and I'm not even religious. You are being unfair to that guy, leave him alone.
#22
Join Date: Oct 2006
Location: White Plains, MD
Posts: 77
RE: Am I being unfair??? (long story)
Are you looking to this friend as a hunting buddy or are you looking to him tas a hunting mentor? If he's just a hunting buddy you're whining and being an ass......sometimes patience is the hardest thing to learn when hunting deer, you sit there for hours waiting in ambush freezeing your ass off and don't see anything, you're frustrated and you're taking it out on him.If he's mentoring you he should probably be doing a better job, he should be helping you get your first kill, guiding you and giving advice, giving you positive reinforcement, etc......if he's not doing that then find another mentor or get out there and do it on your own.[/align][/align]One piece of advice I'll give is this. You seem to be traveling a long way to hunt, and it's probably really adding to your frustration level. There's a lot of deer in surburbia,find some place closer. I live 20 miles outside the Washington DC beltway and do a lot of hunting in small woodlots in peoples back yards....that's where the majority of the doe's I take come from....I work flex time and get off work at 3PM and hunt at least a couple of times a week..two of the three doe's I've taken so far this yer came form back yards. [/align]
#23
Join Date: Oct 2005
Posts: 107
RE: Am I being unfair??? (long story)
The answer to your posts title is DEFINITELY YES - you are being unfair!!!
So much so, that I don't even understand your logic here!?! Why do you think that this fella would even go if he wasn't allowed to hunt? Isn't that why he went...to hunt?
How about if he didn't actually kill anything. Would it be ok if he was to make his hand to the shape of a gun, and then yell "BANG" at the deer???
You could be happy for your friend who did get a deer! He was probably pretty stoked, and your attitude is probably nothing but a buzz kill! Bet that was really fun for him.
So much so, that I don't even understand your logic here!?! Why do you think that this fella would even go if he wasn't allowed to hunt? Isn't that why he went...to hunt?
How about if he didn't actually kill anything. Would it be ok if he was to make his hand to the shape of a gun, and then yell "BANG" at the deer???
You could be happy for your friend who did get a deer! He was probably pretty stoked, and your attitude is probably nothing but a buzz kill! Bet that was really fun for him.
#25
Dominant Buck
Join Date: Feb 2003
Location: Blossvale, New York
Posts: 21,199
RE: Am I being unfair??? (long story)
I think you guys jumping him for not letting the guy fill his tag for him is out of line. True, our guy seems to have a little jealousy thing going about the guy could have let them walk in hopes they'd come my way. But I think we've straightened him out on that. But the question now is does he have to let Guy B fill his tag for him. I say no. The guy wants to become a bowhunter. HE wants to kill his own deer. And that's what he should tell the guy. You can come and all that, but if you shoot a deer I'm not tagging it. I want the opportunity to tag my own deer. If the guy doesn't see the reasoning in that, well hell, I don't want to hunt with him anyway. We find out over the years that the best person to hunt with is usually ourselves.
#26
Join Date: Sep 2005
Location: Olney. Maryland
Posts: 93
RE: Am I being unfair??? (long story)
I can see how you feel. I don't think a deer or hunting permission should affect a friendship. If you feel he is taking advantage of your situation then find a new hunting partner.
I was fortunate that my hunting buddy who got me into bow hunting did everything in his power to try to get my first deer. Anytime he saw deer he would tell me where to place my stand. I got my first deer last year and he was not there. When I shot my first bow buck (8 pointer) last November he was there and he was as excited as I was.
Life is too short hunt with people you like and treat you the way you want to be treated.
I was fortunate that my hunting buddy who got me into bow hunting did everything in his power to try to get my first deer. Anytime he saw deer he would tell me where to place my stand. I got my first deer last year and he was not there. When I shot my first bow buck (8 pointer) last November he was there and he was as excited as I was.
Life is too short hunt with people you like and treat you the way you want to be treated.
#29
Nontypical Buck
Join Date: Apr 2004
Posts: 3,236
RE: Am I being unfair??? (long story)
ORIGINAL: spur0701
On the question of him useing your tags......totally agree with davidmil on that......he shouldn't even be broaching that subject.
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On the question of him useing your tags......totally agree with davidmil on that......he shouldn't even be broaching that subject.
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#30
Nontypical Buck
Join Date: Dec 2003
Posts: 3,913
RE: Am I being unfair??? (long story)
If you are too heavy to hunt "his" stand, buy a pop up blind, or just cut a few limbs and make a ground blind. If the farmer wants the deer killed, he wouldn't care about you trimming a few trees. (I'd still check with him first) Just sit there and wait the deer out. If you've never killed a deer, you may need his experience with field dressing, or help with the dragging. A 100lb doe feels like 250lbs after you've drug it a few hundred yards by yourself. They make stands that support over 300lbs, Wally world has a 2 man stand that is rated for 500lbs and is $100. Plenty of room to stretch out in it. Good luck on your first deer, but don't be ticked off when you invite a guy on a deer hunt and he takes one..... thats time for pics and memories, not grudges.