I'm sure we've all had relatives, friends or co-workers that invite theirselves to hunt with you. How do you say no?

Over the years I've helped several guys and kids gettheir deer. Some, it was their first deer or first with a bow. I did the scouting, hung the stands, got the permission, figured out the deer's patterns. Basically did everything but pull the trigger. So I don't have a problem helping others.

Its the ones thatwant to hunt with youall the time. I like seeing a guy get his deer but it is alot of hard work not to mention sacraficing my time hunting. I don't mind helping a first timer or someone that hasn't had much luck.

Sometimes, I just want to huntwithout the babysitting. Yet some guys act like you owe it to them to take them with you .

How do you guys get away from that?

Tell them that if they find the spot and the animals, you would be more than happy to help coach them through it and figure the animals out. You can figurehow many come back ready to go!!!!

my friends learned that unless i ASK that they shouldnt BOTHER asking. but if they ask me sometimes ill consider. sometimes im up for a good time with the guys...others..i wanna HUNT..or just get away from...life..for a while. they learned i enjoy hunting alone and not to bother trying to invite themselves on my hunts...

No

Hey Windwalker7,

Will you take me hunting?

I don't have that problem, I ask people to try hunting, and they always show interest, but never take it to the next step. I would enjoy taking some new people hunting, my dad is getting closer to hanging up the bow, and my uncle seldom hunts anymore. I hunt alone much more often than I would like. My sons are getting old enough that they will join me in the next few years, but I would love to help someone get their first deer.

When someone askes you to take them, explain that you don't mind, and that you like having the opportunity to help them learn, but the next trip out you already have some plans for the next trip out, a specialarea or some strategy you are wanting to try out, but to give you a call and the two of you can set up another time that would be good for the both of you.

That way you are not brushing them off, and they will begin to understand thet your every free moment is not to be their personal guide and trainer.

Good luck and God Bless

Here's my situation this year.


Last year I took a guy and his 12 year old son deer hunting. The guy wanted to see his boy get a deer but had only ever taken a few deer himself.

I took them to the spotI hunted the first day with my daughter.
The boy ended up getting a buck and a doe. The boy was tickled and I was happy for him. They said they never saw so many deer. 35 deer and 5 were bucks.

Now this year, they already got their doe tags for this area, assuming they were going with me. They called to ask where I was sending and I told them I was planning on getting my doe in the early muzzle loader season ( that starts tomorrow). I tried to give the hint I wanted to hunt myself. A few days later, the boy was saying he couldn't wait for muzzle loader season.

The phone has been ringing off the hook the last few days. They are calling to see if I will take them, with me, tomorrow. I won't answer it.

I don't want to be rude. They are nice people but I feel they should be happy the boy got his first few deer and look for their own places to hunt, not rely on me to take them. I have a feeling they will show up at the farm I hunt, tomorrow.

Hinting is bad. Guys hate when us women do it because you guys never get it. I have a feeling this is happening in your situation too.

Maybe offer to take them out one more time and then tell them that you'd like to hunt there by yourself for the rest of the season/year/life. Point them to nearest public land to be helpful.

But you have to actually tell them. You can be nice without having to beat around the bush.

That's my .03 cents.

Ok this is how I handle it.

I say no, if I let you, I have to let everyone. Yes I am being rude, but I am being rude to everyone who ask.

My land, and more people I let hunt, the less deer I will see. I do not say I am sorry.

Once you established the "rude" factor you will be ask less and less.