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All,
Bobby was man enough to pm me about my harsh response
above. Now that I understand his situation better I feel I owe
him an apology here as this is where I put him down.
Posting the whole reason things happen is hardly ever possible
on these forums and I need to remember that.
Sorry for flaming w/o knowing Bobby, hope there's no hard feelings.

God bless & good hunting.

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Bobby, I've learned that funerals aren't for the deceased, but for the loved ones. You go to your wife's parents' funeral for the support of your wife, not for the dead person. A later post said there's more to the story, but from what you've said, that's pretty cold, going hunting rather than to the funeral. My guess is that you loved hunting more than your wife, so it's good your single. Not saying you're "bad" but just saying you're probably better off single if it means that much to you.

Me? I love to hunt and fish and do spend spousal good will points to do it, but it's not a marriage breaker either way - not for my wife, not for me. If it were, I'd choose the marriage. Compared to my wife, kids and home life, my other activities are insignificant. Starting to re-think it a little now that the kids are teenagers! :D

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i hope you can sit down and talk it over with her and come to an agreement mike. i feel so bad for u. i love the company of a good women, but most women i know don't like hunting and would rather u spending all day with them rather than 2 hour hunting. i love to hunt, probably to much and so i can't see myself giving it up for any women. guess i'll just either have to find a town boy who is as passionate as i am about hunting or die single next to my recurve and pump gun. good luck bro. my prayers will go out to u tonight.

THE FOOT

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Mike,
What is the problem??
1. The money...Hunting cost alot serious. My wife is Mrs. Fugile so I cut a few lawns to save up for all hunting expenses.

2. Or is she real possisive? I can't help there becaus emine loves it when I hunt. She likes her quiet time.

3. Or does she not like you shooting the animals? Mine is a little fussy about that.However; since she is fugile she like the free meals of venison. And if you cook them real good they may want you to get more. Mine does.

4. Or is she just nagging. If that's the case love your wife and try to help fill that void. The hunting thing could just be an attack on you and have nothing to do about hunting.

I'm real sorry about your situation. Mine is the opposite. I'm leaving for a few days and she is happy for me and bought me a large cooler a few days ago.LOL

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^^^thats great:D:D

Glad it worked out for you Mike:)

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Like they say, Marriage isn't finding the right person, Its being the right person.;)

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OK I am not sure where to start here.

Does your wife eat the meat? If so, tell her it is was to save money on groceries that she can use for something else.

Do you watch the boys, so she can do something? If so tell her that you watch them while she does thing, it is only fair that you get to do things as well.

So she does not work, you work, do you work alot. My guess is she may e feeling insecure and that she does not get enough time with you or she just wants to be a nag.

Did she know you hunted when you married her? If so was she like this from the beginning or just recently. If it is just recently,then there may be more to it, than your going hunting. I am not sure what age you both are, but she could be going through the change or going through something and just wants you around. Women go through things like this alot. Iknow I do, but then again I am a 31 yr old going through the change...lol

I would sit down with her and tell her you love her, you love your kids, you do everything you can for them, you work, you do her honey-dos, put on the table everything you do. Then tell her that you also love hunting. (remember this is coming from a girl here) Tell her that their is no way the hunting replaces her (even if it might, do not let her know that). That hunting is your way of letting off steam. It is the only time of year that you get to go and be with yourself and get some time alone and you enjoy. Tell her it is not fair that she takes that from you. Just when you are talking to her, make sure she understand you love her, but that marriage is a 2 way street you give and take. You give all year long, she takes (don't work it that way, could start a fight) but that it is now your turn to take. There has to be a compromise somewhere. Shoot, get a babysiter and go camp out with her, she may enjoy it. I know you guys do not like romantics, but make the night romantic for her, if it is just the two of you.

Luckly my husband married someone who likes to hunt more than he does and fish. I count down the days to hunting and then I want to go everyday, although we can't, but I want to go everyday. last year he got tired of going so much. He does not have to do anything. I can go to my stand alone, come out at dark alone, kill the deer, track the deer, I am a better tracker, skin it, process it, you name I cna do it. I think he is a pretty darn lucky guy.

Now I have read so much, I can't remember who this was, but the one who chose or was going to chosoe hunting over his wifes funeral...WRONG. I know you love hunting, I share the passion with you. But thinking the guy is dead and you do not like funerals, is not the way to think. You should be thinking. Wow, my wife dad has died, she needs me. The one who said the funeral was for the loved one, that is so true. She needs you more now, than ever. As much as I love hunting, and my husband loves it and as much as I love my husband, if a family member died in my family and he chose hunting over going to support me, by the time he got home, there would an ad in the paper for his truck, the locks on the doors changed and his clothes in a pile on our dirt rd. To be honest, if it was opposite and I did that, I would expect the same thing.

Now I do not if you wanted to hear a womens side to this, but I hope I have given some useful info, if not oh well. Sorry.

I wish you luck.
Kim

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HEY MIKE,
got a brother in the same situation she has a controling personality he does everything for her and she has come to expect it now. they have been married for 15yrs and everytime he wants to hunt or go anywhere she puts a guilt trip on him and makes him feel so bad he thinks whats the use.I dont know how long you have been married? But it has got to be a win win situation you want to hunt this weekend, go somewhere with her next weekend. My wife is great understands totaly until I start neglecting her then I just slow down a little pay her some attention and its back to normal.On the other hand with my brother he has started putting his foot down and he has seen a little change at his place.Hope you can work it out because seems like it is going to be a great season saw two 8 pointers yesterday.

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Preach on Brother! You could'nt have said it better!