It almost sounds to me like you had your decapping pin extended down too far initially. And from what I can assume the previous case was not in the shell holder properly and the pin did not line up with the flash hole and bent the decapping pin. (Which should have been caught following decapping inspection of the case.) The next case when going up - especially if not in the shell holder was enough to bend the spindle.
Another thing what it sounds like is that you may have been in a hurry and were rushing things which is taboo in reloading. IMO you should only reload when you have the time and no distractions. Not only can youcause damage to your equipment which you found out, but you can also cause damage to yourself of someone else as a result of a miscue like a double charge or something else.

New brass, no primers involved. Just prepping the brass to trim and clean. I always size, trim and clean new brass. As stated before, I wasn't paying too close attention. I wasn't in much of a hurry, just a careless mistake on my part. But the replacments came in, and now I'm waiting on a day that the wind is less that gale force to head to the range.

Your not alone in the rod and ball damage . I have done the same thing when short cutting 308 to 243 to 22-250 . Just 2 kinds those whom have and those who will .