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RE: Leave wife??
ORIGINAL: AF Hunter Man, don't give up hope. Seek both individual and joint counselling and do everything you can to save it. It isn't easy, but do it for yourself, your relationshipand your child. It takes both to fix what is broken. I know that of which I speak......... Then change your signature line from "we interrupt this marriage for hunting season". Attitudes like this even if unspoken are easily picked up on. If it seems more than you can handle, seek guidance from "a higher authority" (God as you may see him). Good luck and don't cave in to the easy path. |
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The thing about trust is....it isn't a gift. It has to be earned.
Our actions can empty a large amount of "banked" trust with one wrong move. That's why we have to weigh our moves, wisely. I tell my son all the time....that there is a point, just before he does things, when he HAS to be asking himself if it's the right thing....or the wrong thing to do. He then has a decision to make. We have these type decisions to make from time to time in our marriages and other relationships. To me.....when the decision to breach that trust is made.....what happens after that is irrelevant. The respect has been lost. I waited until I was 39 to get married. It was the right decision, for me. It's probably why I wasn't divorced as a younger man. But I know that respect is the foundation of our relationship. If I fell out of love with Lisa....I'd still respect her. She's a helluva lady. I know I'll never breach our trust. Too much respect. I couldn't love someone I didn't respect. It would be the first question I would ask my wife, if I were in your shoes. Then.....you may have a decision to make. If I got the wrong answer.....what "I" thought would simply be irrelevant. I wish you the best. |
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tough situation man. wish ya the best.
me and the girlfriend of...3 years...broke up about a month ago. things got kinda rocky for a while..then she lost my trust...i was foolish enough to give her a second chance after that and EARN the trust i had in her back...but that month she just dug her hole deeper and deeper. sucks...but it would suck a heck of alot more if i was married. i got it easy compared to being married...im in college...they come and they go...this past month i realized what i been missin bein all tied up. but i do miss having someone...she didnt have me on a leash...but instead of nights out with the boys, or nights with my buddy coon hunting, or going to camp for weekends, id hunt during the day and spend the nights with her..i am havin fun though...but like i said...i wasnt married and im in college... goodluck |
RE: Leave wife??
One more thing I'd like to say to you. Happiness is a state of mind. Meaning, you (or she) may be unhappy & thinking things could get better with someone else.You can find happiness where youare if you choose to.This can be done by not dwelling on the bad a person is or does, but being happy about life in general. Someone mentionedearlier the joy of kissing up on their baby. That can carry you a long way... A long way.Talking to her as I mentioned earlier is still a must to get it resolved. If not it becomes like a splinter in your finger, festering up. Once you clean the wound up/out it will heal. Promise...
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First off let me say that I've been drinking some very good imported beer so what ever I say is subject.:D
Don't no what to say. Been married for 26 years and it took me at least 20 to find out what a good woman I have. Point is, give it time. Told my wife last year, because of her self scarifice to me and my kids that she's bought and paid for me. She owns menow. You can'tunderstand that until your there and it proves the old joke. Man and women sitting on the porch. Woman says "you'd better go and put your sweater on." Man does and 20 minutes later says "Am I cold or are we going somewere".:D Been in bad times with the wife. Hate it. Hope things get better. |
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Thanks to everyone for the feed back/support. I know my tagline kinda looks bad with the question that I asked but its really just a joke that me and her have cause she bought me a plaque that says that at Gander Mountain a few months back. Thanks again for everything to everyone.
I don't get it. This post is a joke? Or do you really have trust issues with your wife? What does the plaque say? I'm totally confused. Two houses is good, one for each of you. lol Just kidding but only because I don't want to waist time giving advise when it's all just a joke.? There really isn't any good advise to give with so little to go on. Would you ask a plumber to fix a broken leg? Sounds to me like you need some professional help, not advise from a bunch of deer hunters. |
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Dont I know it but we have worked it out.
Thanks Again, Tony ORIGINAL: GMMAT The thing about trust is....it isn't a gift. It has to be earned. Our actions can empty a large amount of "banked" trust with one wrong move. That's why we have to weigh our moves, wisely. I tell my son all the time....that there is a point, just before he does things, when he HAS to be asking himself if it's the right thing....or the wrong thing to do. He then has a decision to make. We have these type decisions to make from time to time in our marriages and other relationships. To me.....when the decision to breach that trust is made.....what happens after that is irrelevant. The respect has been lost. I waited until I was 39 to get married. It was the right decision, for me. It's probably why I wasn't divorced as a younger man. But I know that respect is the foundation of our relationship. If I fell out of love with Lisa....I'd still respect her. She's a helluva lady. I know I'll never breach our trust. Too much respect. I couldn't love someone I didn't respect. It would be the first question I would ask my wife, if I were in your shoes. Then.....you may have a decision to make. If I got the wrong answer.....what "I" thought would simply be irrelevant. I wish you the best. |
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I can't relate... I'm sorry. Depends on what it's all about. You certainly won't find the answer here. Start with her, ministers, priest, coucellors, etc. You really need to sit her down and if necessary with a coucellor or someone who can sort through the bullcrap. It takes two people to make a thing work. It also takes two people to allow something to go assunder. I suspect there's blame to be laid all around. Don't come here and expect us to say dump the bitch because we really don't know the story, her or you. I didn't read any of the other post so if this has all been said, well it must be right.
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Put everything you own in your brothers/sisters/fathers name....then divorce.
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RE: Leave wife??
My opinion on the whole thing is that if you dont trust her now you probably never will.....and there will always be some doubt in the back of your mind.
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