Forum needs a change
#11
+1 on this when someone has been acting out and posting allegations of others or those beating up on that person , I initionally do read the threads. And then if I dont like what is said I generally will just ignore whatever this person may post in the future. Why let it bring down this great site, let it go. When certain posters see that their threads arent being viewed they might see the light. Ive learned so much here in the short time Ive been on I appreciate all who contribute to help out us newbies.
#12
Nontypical Buck
Joined: Dec 2009
Posts: 2,496
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From: Yucca Valley,Ca
X2, this says it all.i have never argued with another member on this forum, and i firmly believe everything i said in that thread to be totally true. if that offends people i am truly sorry..but some things just need to be said.. Ray
#13
While the thread certainly was not one of the finer moments, I believe that there can be a lot of lessons learned from the contents. Disagreements are going to happen, they have been happening since the beginning of time. But it says a lot when the disagreement can be discussed, even though it be heated at times, and mutual agreement is reached.... certainly better than the alternatives.
What happened in the thread boils down to 'conflict resolution'. Conflict resoulution is not always pretty and there is lot more of it needed. Hopefully it can all be kept behind the scenes but sometimes it does and needs to come to the surface to get resolved. Un-resolved confict can really become a problem and lead to some really violent reactions...
It is a proven fact that people can grow from confict if it reaches a resolution
Does this statement address the point???
With most conflicts, it’s important to find a resolution. This seems like a statement of the obvious, but many people suppress their anger or just ‘go along to get along.' They think that by addressing a conflict, they are creating one, and simply keep quiet when upset. Unfortunately, this isn’t a healthy long-term strategy. For one thing, unresolved conflict can lead to resentment and additional unresolved conflict in the relationship. Even more important, ongoing conflict can actually have a negative impact on your health and longevity.
What happened in the thread boils down to 'conflict resolution'. Conflict resoulution is not always pretty and there is lot more of it needed. Hopefully it can all be kept behind the scenes but sometimes it does and needs to come to the surface to get resolved. Un-resolved confict can really become a problem and lead to some really violent reactions...
It is a proven fact that people can grow from confict if it reaches a resolution
Does this statement address the point???
With most conflicts, it’s important to find a resolution. This seems like a statement of the obvious, but many people suppress their anger or just ‘go along to get along.' They think that by addressing a conflict, they are creating one, and simply keep quiet when upset. Unfortunately, this isn’t a healthy long-term strategy. For one thing, unresolved conflict can lead to resentment and additional unresolved conflict in the relationship. Even more important, ongoing conflict can actually have a negative impact on your health and longevity.
Last edited by sabotloader; 01-27-2011 at 07:17 AM.
#14
Nontypical Buck
Joined: Dec 2009
Posts: 2,496
Likes: 0
From: Yucca Valley,Ca
While the thread certainly was not one of the finer moments, I believe that there can be a lot of lessons learned from the contents. Disagreements are going to happen, they have been happening since the beginning of time. But it says a lot when the disagreement can be discussed, even though it be heated at times, and mutual agreement is reached.... certainly better than the alternatives.
What happened in the thread boils down to 'conflict resolution'. Conflict resoulution is not always pretty and there is lot more of it needed. Hopefully it can all be kept behind the scenes but sometimes it does and needs to come to the surface to get resolved. Un-resolved confict can really become a problem and lead to some really violent reactions...
It is a proven fact that people can grow from confict if it reaches a resolution
Does this statement address the point???
With most conflicts, it’s important to find a resolution. This seems like a statement of the obvious, but many people suppress their anger or just ‘go along to get along.' They think that by addressing a conflict, they are creating one, and simply keep quiet when upset. Unfortunately, this isn’t a healthy long-term strategy. For one thing, unresolved conflict can lead to resentment and additional unresolved conflict in the relationship. Even more important, ongoing conflict can actually have a negative impact on your health and longevity.
What happened in the thread boils down to 'conflict resolution'. Conflict resoulution is not always pretty and there is lot more of it needed. Hopefully it can all be kept behind the scenes but sometimes it does and needs to come to the surface to get resolved. Un-resolved confict can really become a problem and lead to some really violent reactions...
It is a proven fact that people can grow from confict if it reaches a resolution
Does this statement address the point???
With most conflicts, it’s important to find a resolution. This seems like a statement of the obvious, but many people suppress their anger or just ‘go along to get along.' They think that by addressing a conflict, they are creating one, and simply keep quiet when upset. Unfortunately, this isn’t a healthy long-term strategy. For one thing, unresolved conflict can lead to resentment and additional unresolved conflict in the relationship. Even more important, ongoing conflict can actually have a negative impact on your health and longevity.
#15
I believe in self moderation in all things. That is one reason I never responded to that topic. I think I tuned into it once to see what the disagreement was about, and once to see if they had resolved it, but other then that.. I had too many other topics to pay attention to. Life is too short to argue for me. Although I will say, this is a great forum and the members here are wonderful people whom I respect and admire. I will leave it at that.
#16
last time I heard the "we need change" chant we ended up with Obama as president.
What would have been better would be to grab someone by the ear and march them out to the woodshed.
That would have solved the problem before the end of page one on the post.
What would have been better would be to grab someone by the ear and march them out to the woodshed.
That would have solved the problem before the end of page one on the post.
#19
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#20
Spike
Joined: Dec 2005
Posts: 21
Likes: 0
I believe in self moderation in all things. That is one reason I never responded to that topic. I think I tuned into it once to see what the disagreement was about, and once to see if they had resolved it, but other then that.. I had too many other topics to pay attention to. Life is too short to argue for me. Although I will say, this is a great forum and the members here are wonderful people whom I respect and admire. I will leave it at that.


