thanks guys the day i had posted this i had spent all daaaaaaaaaaaayyyyyyyy with him, not a good idea, but after thinking about it i'll do like just about everybody has mentioned, water off a ducks back, and i'll still kill three 0r four days fishing narrow water in the heat of the summer with him, for his enjoyment, plus like my wife said all this is temporary and some day i won't have this burden, kind of changed my whole outlook on the situation, thanks again for the responses