I also sent some 180gr GoldDots and the Nosler 200gr which i do like better than the 200gr XTP. Im not sure if it holds up any better.
At one time i found a company that made a plated 220gr but it was a TMJ flat point. I had no luck trying to get them to make a 220gr plated HP. Only Hawks makes a larger cup and core 40cal and they are not cheap.