Of the two that you have listed, I would much prefer the XDM. Nice little pistol. There are others that I would prefer over this, but if these are the two that you have narrowed it down to, that would be my choice. Of course, my hands are different than yours...get what fits/feels the best. If difference is negligible, and price is not a factor one way or the other, I just like the XDM better and would go for that. But, they fit me well too.