Well this is kind of a morbid subject but I'll give what insight I can. When my grandfather passed on, I was the only grandchild with the interest of the outdoors and consequently got the items relating to such activities. My advice would be to sit down and talk to your kids about the situation. I'm still not understanding why you're going for this so early. Are you in poor health? I sincerely hope not. The other optional solution is just to let them sort it out long after you are passed. Then feeling may be hurt but you will not be the one to blame.