A 22-250, 243, 25-06, 257 roberts, 260 or 7mm08 would be good choices for deer, without much recoil. I have a soft spot for the 25-06 when it comes to rifles in the crossover calibers for varmints, targets, and deer. Recoil pads do work wonders. You might consider getting a youth stock. And keep the full-size for yourself