ORIGINAL: mouthcaller
Maytom
I also shoot the Mossberg 835 with max loaded 3.5" Nitro Triplex loads. Until I tweaked the gun it kicked like he!!. However, with a ported 24" barrel, ported Star Dot choke, Sims Limbsaver recoil pad and the addition of a scope (added weight with the scope, base rail and rings) that monster turned into a lamb. I have no trouble shooting the gun. Perceived recoil is far less tha my standard 870 with 3" loads. The 870 jarrs you, but this double ported Mossy is just a big push - not a sharp kick. That Limbsaver pad made a big difference also.
Mothcaller
The first 835's way back then didn't come with a ported barrel,or all the other stuff to reduce recoil like they are today. I agree, your gun probably doesn't kick as bad as the one I had.