RE: Self Defense handgun help.
i bought my my fience' a taurus mil/ and she really likes it. its in 9mm. i wouldnt go any bigger than that with your friend either. it will doalmost as good as my sig 40 with a little less kick. there is a ton of great self defence rounds out there for the9mm as well. if our police force didnt already issue me a 40 cal i would have stuck with the 9 as well becauseof mag/ cap.jmo. good luck