Holy, there are some of you guys that sound pretty brave here and are in my oppinion the most likely "yes dears" at home. If your not you sound like your on the way to bachelorhood.Any relationship is a give and take situation on both sides. Wether she likes to bungeejump or you like to snoboard naked. Everybody is entitled to thier own passtimes. It's the division of labor that helps get someone (male or female) free time.Telling someone to choose between "getting his balls back" and keeping a civil relationship with the person he loves doesn't seem like too hard of a decision to me. Comunication is key. Sitting down and talking about it is the way to go. Telling her that your going to do something and that's just too damn bad will be like setting fire to tinder. Kablamo! Instant fight just add water! Set time aside for family first, then playtime. Involve everyone as much as possible with the family decisions about when to do things and life goes alot smoother.
If she dated you when you hunted or fished or whatever the hobby, then she knows you love it. She just has to know you love her and the kids MORE. It doesn't mean you have to stop it just means you also have to do family stuff too.
As a woman the worst feeling in the world is thinking the person you love doesn't love you or appreciate you or the things you do for him. I had a hard time convincing my long term BF that even though he loves me it's a nice thing to HEAR. He has since come arround. I do not want his "balls" in a jar nor do most normal women want a man they can push around or walk on.And I do not think any less of any man for putting loved ones and thier feelings first.
Single people are single because they choose to be. Everyone else learns the term compromise.