Felt recoil has more to do with gun fit than anything else. Most of the newer models come with shims to adjust the fit of the stock. For all around use a 3" model is usually a better choice for all around use. The SBE's are good choices for waterfowling but, not the best for cycling lighter loads. The recoil of a 3 1/2" waterfowl load out of a semi auto is not that harsh. Shooting a bolt rifle with a magnum cartridge has more kick. A 3 1/2" turkey load kick pretty good though.

Here's a link to a similar question. There are quite a few models listed that would be good for all around use.

http://www.shotgunworld.com/bbs/viewtopic.php?t=129342