Right, but getting to know someone is notletting some one earn your trust really. It's you feeling comfortable enough to extend trust or at least feeling like you know them well enough to trust them. My father never taught me to trust blindly. He taught me many could be trusted and thatmany could not.He also taught me that one who violated trust once could never be trusted again. He further taught me that the only way to know if someone can be trusted is to extend trust to them. He taught me never to extend trust to a person who showed signs of distrust. He taught me that this is a sign of a person who isn't trustworthy.

Even though I don't extend trust to everyone, anytime, anyplace, I don't inherently distrust anyone either. I realize that when trust is extended, it can be violated. But a relationship which depends on trust can never be attained without stepping on this ledge.