RE: What other bullets to look into?
I read your description, a couple of time,of what happens after the shot, the problem wasn't the bullet rather it was poor bullet placement. Even if the bullet did not exit, if the shot had been a true lung hit, as claimed,the doe would have died from enternal bleeding well before the 2-3 hours claimed in this story. The guys story is just that, a story...to make up for poor shooting.
I've been shooting the BT for deer hunting for so long now, I don't remember when I first started using them, never had one fail. Not saying they can't, it's just never happened to me or anyone that I know.