Take a look at the wrist releases by Tru-Ball.
If you shot a loop I would reccomend the Short N Sweet II.
www.truball.com
You may also be able to adjust the release you have.If your release has a piece of threaded rod in it,you can cut it off with a hax saw and then rebend the end.Not hard at all,I have done it before.
You are exactly right to be trying to get the release back off your fingertip.