dohcrxl,

I am not here to crucify you. Thats not my place. But in relation to your new delemma, I can only say this. It sounds as though you love your wife. And you already know how she feels. Deception has already cost you once in this ordeal. If I am correct, you could compromise your ideal and live with it .... easier than lying to your wife. It would be a constant haunt to you about her finding out about your deceiving her. And , woe to him whose wife finds out about his deception. I say if the guy wishes to pay and it is what your wife believes to be right, and just talking to her about how you feel will not change her mind, then let it be. But do not ever put yourself in that type of situation again. Good can never come from lies and deception. Just look at how the original deception has blown up and what it has cost, and I don't just mean in dollars.

Good luck

God Bless