I feel for you man, I really do. I was married for 7 years, had 2 kids. The wife got tired of me being gone all the time, and headed for greener pastures. I was only 29. It was HELL going thru that divorce, and not a day goes by that I don't regret it. Even though I've been remarried for 6 years, and now have FIVE kids...my first 2 kids have had so much more stress in their life, because their parents were divorced. I'm happy now, but if I was a younger me, and it was "back then", I'd have BUSTED MY ASS trying to make it work. It was mountain biking/racing with me back then (and I was in the Army), but being gone is being gone. Good luck man, and I'll say a prayer for you. Treat your wife like she's a 210 B/C, and start putting in the hours to take her back. If you CAN'T work it out with her, try to stay as friendly as possible for the kids, and be sure to be a central figure in your kids life. We only get one DAD. Okay, enough rambling from a nobody that wasn't asked for an opinion.