Gibblet,
My condolences my friend. This one especially hits home today as I found out this week that my mother has lung cancer. She's a tough old girl and has already survived breast cancer 8 years ago but this one scares me. Probably because I remember my dad dieing of lung cancer 7 years ago. I found when my father died that after a while I started thinking more of what made me laugh about the old guy and shake my head, that worked for me. It takes time but you will learn to deal with it my friend.