This is why I do 95% of all my hunting alone. Even beyond this, I prefer to hunt alone anyway, so it kills 2 birds with 1 stone.

The landowner has the right to do what he wants but man to man with your buddy he should honor it as your spot unless you and him had an agreement otherwise. I can tell you right now anyone who would go in behind you is not your buddy. Buddies do not do that to buddies period.

Friends???
 

This second post kinda of cleared up some questions I had. It sounds to me as if "you alone" have the relationship w/ the owner and not he. Is he allowed to hunt w/o you with him? Point is, I think he is taking advantage of your good will. I would break it down w/ him, let him know about his lack of contribution to both of your good fortune. I've had friends to my place, and I at theirs, we would never take advantage of each other. "you ain't seeing anything, come on up, get some" vice versa. :sign0016: To me, you're letting it happen. If you're real good friends, he'll see the error in his ways, and will work it out for the sake of the relationship. Otherwise you'll continue to stew and lose respect for him until you become "former" friends. It's already started, you posted here.

Well I guess to sum it up for me is should I just let go of the notion that it is "my" spot. I was hunting like 8 years before him and then invited him down there. When the landowner asked me who hunts I put him on the list. Me, my kids and him. He has been down there 12-13 years now. Thats what I am getting at I guess. After this long is it still the same as day 1 when I invited him there?

Do you look at your friends trophies and actual think they came about only because of your connections . Thats sad , I don't know the value of your friendship but your I'm boss attitude could end it . Your post makes me think of my own situation , I have been hunting with the same friend off and on for close to fifty years and whom was boss has never came up .

halcon
 

but has your friend ever made you feel uncomfortable enough to make you actually post for advice? The man is reaching out for a reason. I don't think it's a who's the boss issue.

I used to hunt 100% alone...but I also hunt in a very difficult WMA..I learned that in Florida most hunters will split the game right down the middle PLUS it's easier to drag a deer out.Therefore 50% of the time I hunt with one more hunter...3 seems to be too much ..I like TWO .Most of my hunting is a mile deep . I'm very selective with my hunting partners ...and even with this ..I keep 90% of my hot spots to myself..When I hunt with a new hunter we find a new spot..or hunt one we both found the year before.

Some expectations I have finding hunting buddies..

A. Must be a flat out good quiet hunter..I prefer ones that are more experienced than me..but humble about it.

B. Must be a fellow Christian striving to walk in obedience to the Word...{ must be honest }lots claim to be a Christian and even go to church..I aint talkin about those..I'm talking about the real ones.They are a rare breed.

C. Must be willing to split gas money

D. Must cheerfully split the deer or hog harvested...even the tenderloins.{ -;

The only issue I've had with my new hunting partner..
--talks way to much
--doesn't want to leave..last year we had 2 hogs on the tail gate..He was ticked off that I wanted to go home..Hey, it's Florida I was wanting to get the meat on ice.
Summary..the man is a great hunter and scores often..so we are still hunting partners.LOL

That's BS. I can't stand disrespect. I believe seniority should always override these situations. Too bad it doesn't.

I feel your pain. I had a friend take me to his area turkey hunting (me filming) and duck hunting a couple times, and I've never returned w/out his invite. To repay him, I took the same guy duck hunting, & frog gigging, and who showed up at my honey holes? Hunting land is extremely hard to come by around here, so I learned my lesson. We're still friends, but we don't hunt together anymore. The few friends I do hunt with, we are all on the same page. From now on I just establish ahead of time the intentions, whether it's by invite only or accept the friend to show up anytime...I like to share, but I also don't want my area & way I hunt change because a selfish hunter steps on my toes.

My wifes granmother told me once that the only friend you got is your wallet... When that's empty you aint got no more friends;)

To the OP: Do you have a written agreement with the landowner? If so, then, yes, it's clearly still YOUR spot.