RE: Help explaining hunting to girl friend???
 

Kc bowhunter, trust me, you wouldn't thin out the deer herd here in Mississippi in a 10 day season, we can't even keep them in check with a four month season!

RE: Help explaining hunting to girl friend???
 

Thanks to everyone for the advice. The season here in SC is long, but the trees and fields never stop calling to me. I have yet to sit down with Laura and lay it on the line. Every time I start to: she pats me on the shoulder, gives me a kiss, and says, “Go have some fun”. It is when she is upset or bored that it seams to affect her more. I don’t think she will ever hunt; she is to kind hearted. She could never pull the trigger. She can’t sit still, bores easily with out conversation, and can’t stand the cold. Add all this up and you get that she’ll never hunt with me. I just don’t want there to be any lingering resentment. In her last relationship her boy friend would stay after work drinking with the waitresses and worked at every night and weekend. Which resulted in them hardly ever seeing each other. She doesn’t want that again. I stay with her two nights a week after school and the weekend. With daylight savings I’m back in time to go out or to fix dinner every Fri. and Sat. Every Sunday we have lunch with my folks, which is strange. My mom has even gotten on to me about the time I spend in the woods. Threatening me with a wooden spoon while warning me not to mess this relationship up because “Laura is a keeper”. I feel like a rope being pulled in both directions. I guess we’ll have to sit down and establish some compromises because I don’t want that rope to break and go in two different directions. Thanks again to everyone.

Mike


PS. Her jaw dropped when she found out my rifle and scope cost well over a grand, so the money fight is sometime in the future.

RE: Help explaining hunting to girl friend???
 

Well After watching many friends retire from hunting due to marriage I took a different approach.
I laid down law and said "This is me and hunting is what I love to do. Its in my heart and soul so accept it now and forever if we are to be together"
I ended up marring her and we have 18month old now. I probably hunt more now when I did before and never complains.
I think you need to be pretty firm and honest with her or could lead to your Retirement,
Good Luck


TrestandEd

"Hard work ... conviction ... pride ... responsibility ... class ... character ... success...BOWHUNTING

RE: Help explaining hunting to girl friend???
 

all i'm saying is stand your ground....if she doesn't allow you to do it one time, remember that is only the beginning....just take her with you.......if she doesn't like it, tell her , sorry honey , but i am still doing it....you have fun doing whatever makes you happy......discuss this issue before you get even more attached...if she doesn't have a problem with it, then keep her , but if she does....get rid of her....

RE: Help explaining hunting to girl friend???
 

Well you'll just have to do like I did with my 2nd wife....when we first started dating I told her about my addictions, hunting & fishing & that if our relationship was to proceed to the next level then she would have to understand that next to hunting, fishing & my dog, she'd come first....i've been hunting & fishing long before I met her & that was not about to change...bye the way, we've been together 10 years now & i'm leaving in 2 days to go deer hunting for a week....darn, life is good!!!!!!!!! Brampton Mike

RE: Help explaining hunting to girl friend???
 

Just a little up date. I sat down and had the talk with her last night. Everything seams to be fine for now. “I don’t understand it, but I accept it”, is what she said. I think she had already realized I would be a pain to be around if I didn’t get into the woods when I could. I don’t know what I did to deserve her, but I’m thanking my lucky stars right now. Thanks again for all of the advice and good luck this season.

Mike

RE: Help explaining hunting to girl friend???
 

I have been married for 30 years, and I don't give a crap if she likes it or not. I have been hunting and fishing for 40 years. I know this is no help but, that's just the way I feel. Set em stright right off the git go. It worked for me.

RE: Help explaining hunting to girl friend???
 

Don't buy thet "I don't unnerstand, but I accept it" line. Ifn she don't unnerstand, she ain't been raised round it an' will allays look at it like an eastern city girl. Dump her. Get a girl what knows how to cross a barbed wire fence barefoot, in hot pants an' a halter top. You'll live to regret the other 'un soon as yer old news an' she wants to pick et ya.

BJ

RE: Help explaining hunting to girl friend???
 

Tell her that hunting is not about killing but about becoming one with nature. When you become one with nature it allows your true self to come to the surface....No games no hidden agendas just truth. And in that truth you can begin to express the true feeling you have for her without fear of rejection or public opinion...Isn't that the basis for true love???

If that does not work just lie to her and say you have to work weekends!!!!

RE: Help explaining hunting to girl friend???
 

Well, if your serious with this chick and you are going to be together fo a long time, live together or whatever, set her straight but be honest. Start off with with some kind of love poem or stupid $h1t like that to loosen her up to make her feel that your thinking of her and not just yourself. Works like a charm. They like that stuff. After the poem tell her that hunting is what you are about, its very important to you in life and it will never change. You can do whatever you want with the house, arrange it your way whatever but say the garage is yours to throw in a little chuckle on her side. She will understand because they are never in there anyways. Show some romance before you explain things to her. She will melt in your hands like puddy and think your only thinking of her. She wont even remember the hunting part you explained. Trust me.

Starrman

Ron Starr