Anyone else feel like this?
#1
Thread Starter
Join Date: Sep 2003
Posts: 368
Anyone else feel like this?
I love to hunt and fish by myself. Now, I have a son and I love to go with just him or him and my dad. I have friends that keep pestering me and try to go with me on every trip to the water or woods. If I just don't tell them, they give me a hard time about why I didn't ask them along. In my head I'm screaming, because I want to hunt with my kid and not you. I enjoy time with them too and they are good friends but, jeeze, sometimes I'd like to go it alone!!!
Anyway, anyone else feel the same way?
Greg
Anyway, anyone else feel the same way?
Greg
#2
Join Date: Sep 2004
Location: Owensville, Missouri USA
Posts: 38
RE: Anyone else feel like this?
I think if you tell your friends that you're going with your son or your dad and they still pester you, tell them, No, this is time I get to spend with them, alone. If they still have a problem with it then, it's their problem, not yours.
#3
Join Date: Aug 2004
Location: Bessemer, MI
Posts: 220
RE: Anyone else feel like this?
If they are truly your friends, they'd understand that it is more important for you to spend time in the field with your family. Sounds a bit like they are using you for something, whether it be your skills, equipment, knowledge, hunting and fishing spots, etc.... They should understand that family comes first.
#6
Join Date: Sep 2003
Location: Maine
Posts: 3,555
RE: Anyone else feel like this?
I'm kinda in the same boat having a 2 year old. I guess the biggest difference is no one wants to go hunting, they all want to go to the bars. [:@]
I'd be completely honest with them. Let then know how you feel and I'm sure they'll understand. They also won't feel like you're ditching them if you don't call them before you go afield.
I'd be completely honest with them. Let then know how you feel and I'm sure they'll understand. They also won't feel like you're ditching them if you don't call them before you go afield.
#7
RE: Anyone else feel like this?
I had the opposite experience. I had a life long friend who began only wanting to hang out for hunting but never to do anything else with. We've recently parted ways.
I guess everyone's desires are different. Your friend probably craves time with you and as long as you are honost with him he should be happy to take the time that you offer him and let you be the rest.
My friend couldn't be honost with me and it ended up destroying our entire friendship.[&o]
I guess everyone's desires are different. Your friend probably craves time with you and as long as you are honost with him he should be happy to take the time that you offer him and let you be the rest.
My friend couldn't be honost with me and it ended up destroying our entire friendship.[&o]
#8
Nontypical Buck
Join Date: Apr 2004
Posts: 3,236
RE: Anyone else feel like this?
I had a guy that would glom on and invite himself along everywhere I went. He would try to invite himself to my families deer camp and that would have been a nightmare because the guy is obnoxious. My Dad and brothers would have never have let him live through the trip. I just told him that it was a family tradition and time together and that he could not go. He tried to use guilt to manipulate me but that NEVER works with me. I got to the point that I hoped he would never talk to me again. You don't owe anyone anything except your son and Dad. You owe them every chance you can to spend time together. Friends come second. And if you want to hunt alone, you owe him nothing still. Just don't tell him you are going.
#9
Thread Starter
Join Date: Sep 2003
Posts: 368
RE: Anyone else feel like this?
I have tried the family time thing and being honest he backs off a bit. But right back at it next time. I deal. I just wanted to know if others felt "protective' of their time alone or with family.
Greg
Greg
#10
RE: Anyone else feel like this?
I just wanted to know if others felt "protective' of their time alone or with family.
I no longer hunt with anyone except my Dad, Son and/or Nephew. I was a part of a deer camp with some other guys but NOTHING compares to family in the hunting camp. You have a fine young man there and you should enjoy every chance you can to go hunting with him. My son is 16 and between hockey, girls, school, girls, working and girls he just doesn't get out with me as much as I would like.[]