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I was just wondering if any of you have ever had been fired up about an upcoming hunting season,then have it all destroyed with something like a divorce or worse yet a untimely death.I know it sounds morbid but this is what just happened to me,my wife left my daughter and me this week and served me with divorce papers.I haven't felt this low for a season opener since 911,and my stepfathers passing away two summers ago.I hope this all passes soon.

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Bright side you have your daughter.
May ex pay you alimony.
Plenty of fish in the sea.

Bad side
Hand check for awhile

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WOW, that will put a damper on things. Sorry to hear about that man. Hope things work out for the best. Good luck to you and the rest of your family.

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That is right. Make her (or keep her) your #1 priority. And keep hunting a close 2nd. If she is willing to pick up and leave her daughter...then it doesn't say much for her. I believe it has to hurt now, but may be better in the long run. Keep your head up and good luck.

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oh man... I've never dealt with a divorce before, and I hope I never have to... I'm sorry about your wife and stepfather...

I remember when I was 12, I was just getting back from vacation at my families beach house. Alot of my family was there, my great aunt anne, my great uncle jimmy (who I was really close to), both of my grandparents, uncle bill, and a few others. Anyway,6 days after we got back from that vacation, I was scheduled for a deer hunt in the Appalachian Mountains. What I didn't know was, my uncle jimmy had a heart attack the day that we left for home. He was in the hospital and died the night before I left for the hunt. My parents didn't tell me because they didn't want to ruin my hunt. After I got back, my parents dropped the bomb on me. I was devastated... I couldnt get over it for about a month. Not that I'm necesserily "over it," it''ll haunt me for the rest of my life. Also, when I was 5 my Uncle Mike passed from cancer... I loved my uncle mike more than anything... I was over at his house everyday. And my uncle jack passed when I was 8. I was crushed over that as well. I visit each of their graves atleast once a month; I try to make it twice if i can.

I hope that everything goes well for you in the future, drstalker. If nothing else, you still have your daughter. IMO, nothing should come between you and your children. Again, I'm sorry for your losses.

Chris

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I'm very sorry man, that really stinks. I'll be praying for ya'll....

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I am very sorry also! Best Wishes to you in dealing with all the things that you will be dealing with.Give your daughter all the attention you can because she is going to need all the stability and love you can muster.

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[ul][*]I should have clarified,she's not her biological daughter,I treated her daughter as my own and loved her very much,on the other hand my daughters(the oldest one shepretty much ran off)and her didn't get along to well.Thank's for the kind words guys,I am crushed and hope to get over this sometime soon.My two biological daughters mother left them and me when they where very young and realy hurt,this isn't the same but it makes me feel like I will not ever marry again.I sure know how to pick em[&o][/ul]

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Take care man and remember, women are like busses, there is one on every corner. This time around do like I did for my 2nd marriage, get a hot 15 year younger one than you are. Remember men don't get old, we get distinguished. Women have a shelf life and men don't.:D

Edit: Ladies, hate the game but don't hate the player.

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Sorry to hear about this bud, but like was mentioned before, she isn't much of a woman to think about when she just up & leaves her daughter behind like that.

I've been Divorced before & like other bad situations this'll pass, just make sure that your lil one knows that she is your top priority & that you will never leave her & keep your passion a good second.

Keep your head up my friend you are not alone...

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Yeah I know what ya mean HCH,my first wife was almost ten years older,and the second ten years younger.I think where I went wrong on both accounts is getting involved with two needy women.I was always a sap for tears..

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I know that has to hurt. I personally would go see a counselor to get your feelings on the table and it will help to talk to a rational person. Go take care of yourself and your daughter. You will make it out of this, even though it seems tough. Hang in there brother.:)

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Chin up, it's not the end of the world and sometimes it works out for the better. You won't know it until that happens but don't let that get your hunting season down. The old saying, everything happens for a reason is so true and the next page of your life hasn't been read yet but it very well might be a great read!;)

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Last season I was seperated from my wife (at the time). Other then the occasional, man life sucks, I had alot of time to go out with helpful buddies and chase after animals to "get my mind off of things." I got to deer and duck hunt alot. Had time to do food plots and shoot my bow. As far as hunting goes, it wasn't too bad. As far as the rest of life I hope no one has to ever experience anything like it.

Sorry for ya, but try to get out in the woods some, it's naturally theraputic.

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Well its been8 years now, but the day before opener, I go to work, all is good. I come home to a half empty house! She is gone, and takes the youngin!! I was miserable for a good year!!!! I wasn't married, but we were together for 9 years, and talking about marriage! It's a shock, but it will get better!! Right now, I couldn't be happier!!

Keep your chin up!!

Just make sure to remember, now, it's all about your daughter!!

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That's a horrible thing, but unfortunately all too common. But atleast you've got your daughter, hold on to her, she'll need you now more than ever. You're old enough to know how to deal with this, but she may not be (not sure on the age). The most important thing is to get her thru this even if it means no hunting. If she's old enough, and wants to, take her with you. It's quality time together etc. Might not harvest a deer, but might gain in other aspects of your life. Good luck and you've always got the support of fellow sportsmen.

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Well I'm actually finishing up a divorce thanks to the wife goin a little mental...well...alot. but anyways after the torment I've gone through from her, I'm wired for the upcoming season...and w/o her that meansI can hunt allI want to!

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drstalker, I know it feels bad right now but it will pass trust me, My first wife left me for my best friend because I was gone hunting all the time. You know what that got me?? The best woman a hunter could find I don't even have to ask to go hunting or fishing!!:D And the best thing that came out of it was my daughter and I are closer than most fathers and she hunts and fly fish's with the best of them!! She started going out with me when she was 6 years old and now at 21 as she was graduating from collage she ask for a new bow!! What a kid!! Hang in there it will get brighter I promice!! Walt

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drstalker, that plain sucks and I agree with what many others have said. But the bottom line is that it happened and if there's no resolving things with her and/or it would be pointless, you have to grieve now and move on later and embrace new opportunities. I have never been in your shoes but I did once go away to college far away from home and have my dad die of a heart attack after just a few weeks there when he was 48. I'll never forget the phonecall and I'll never forget moving back home after a few weeks of independent bliss and how much the next year sucked. But I eventually headed out a to a different school, a different place and met my wife. Some nights, I lie awake thinking, I miss my Dad terribly but I wonder what would have happened if things turned out the way they did. I would never have met my wife and had the family I do, etc. So I am thankful for what I have and push forward. I am sure the same will happen for you. You need to be there for your daughter this year and just make sure you be pissed off, sad, mad, whatever and let the emotions out. Hunting may suffer this year. But know that after you get back on track, that things will get a whole lot better and you will have opportunities to be happy or even happier once again. Perhaps with someone 15 years younger as hardcorehunter says. :D

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The Christian comedian Mark Lowery has said that his favorite scripture verse is "And it came to pass..." :D

I hope that the pain, struggle, and shock will soon come to pass. I'll keep you in my prayers.

If you aren't a part of a strong loving church, you might want to find one. They can help you put things back in perspective and show you a lot of love in the meantime.

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I am sorry about the bad news. Keep your chin up...this too will pass. Women,,,can't live with 'em and can't live without 'em.
Good luck to ya'.

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I lost my wife to cancer in 2000. I buried her on what would have been our 30th anniversary. I didn't care much about anything for two years. Life has a way of repairing it's self, but it takes is time. You're acting perfectly normal. Everyone heals in their own time.

PM me and I'll share with you some of God's wisdom from His word! (if you like)

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Had a similar situation with my first wife. I actually caught her in bed a couple times with the another guy. Actually two different guys.

I know it hurts.

Lots of good advice on here. Just try to get out and get in the woods. It will do you good even if your heart isn't in the hunt.

Get to church and pray. just converse with God and tell him how you feel. You'd be surprised how this helps.

Try and seek some conseling or find a Seperated and Divorce group therapy if you can. These I actually enjoyed going to.

Love your daughter and spend time with her. Go for walks, talk, find things to do together.

Things will be tuff for a while.

I know people will tell you that it gets better with time but you find that hard to believe right now. trust me, it will.

One day you'll be able to look back and laugh about it. I promise you. I didn't believe it either but it happened.

As hard as things are right now, it will make you a better person.

Just don't go jumping into another relationship. Get yourself better first.

It will be a bit rough for a while but it gets better day by day.

Good Luck and remember, you still have us on here to talk to.

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Prob the best thing that could of happened... NOW DONT MAKE THE SAME MISTAKE TWICE;););)Hopefully you learned something

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to add to hardcorehunters - your not robbing the cradle, she's robbing the grave. ;)

after breaking up with a few of the women i've dated, i couldnt wait to get away from them and into the woods. [8D]

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time heals.....think positive, it's more hunting time for you......you might even meet a hottie huntin' woman out there......;)

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Blessings to you - I will lift you and your daughter up in prayer tonight.

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spend time with your kids doing what they like and do what you like life continues and its important you carry on too. Time is a beautiful healer and let it work but you got to carry on bud...Good luck and Im sorry!

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I can understand my Ex wife asked for a divorce last december 9th. That was a sad and a happy day for me, because in the morning my father took his first deer in 5 years with me but then in the afternoon my now Ex wife asked for a divorce. I honestly didn't hunt the rest of the season. It just totally threw me for a loop. But it was a blessing because I have now met a wonderful woman who is everything I should have been with from day one. I used to jokingly tell my ex that I would always have hunting but I may not always have her. She was a work-a-holic who didn't know how to relax. Right after she asked for the divorce, I found out there was interest between her and a co-worker, which I suspected before she asked for the divorce. Turns out the guy is in his 50's while my ex was 30 and he had been married 5 times already. LMFAO it still cracks me up to think about it. But I know I will always have hunting, so no matter what happens I always turn to hunting and the outdoors to help clear my mind.

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Sorry to hear that man. My wifes cousin went through the same thing. He was down for a while of course then he realized he has the op to hunt a little more and do the things he enjoyed doing right before and right after they got married. The more time he spent aroudn his friends and in the woods, the happier he became. I saw it in him after a month or so. Everything will be ok.

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drstalker, Iknow what your going threw iam in the same boat now accept i have 2 girls , but they will be living with their mom

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I haven't had a hunting season destroyed by divorce (almost causes one every time) or death but I've had them sunk by moves, finances, life, etc... I wasn't really planning on hunting this year so I made plans to go visit my father who has been down most of the year with shingles. Low and behold I meet another bowhunter off of another bow forum and he has 200 acres of private land to hunt.:( We've tagged up and hunted Saturday for elk and deer but didn't see anything. I missed opening day of deer season last weekend for a wedding down in TX.:( Not a good year so far but I hope to get through it. I will also miss the last Saturday of this early deer seaon because the Board of Directors I'm on for a Christian Summer camp has a "very important meeting" that day and I have to be there since I'm the sectretary.:( Loads and loads of dissappointments this year.:([:o][:-][&o] But...there is always next year.

Hunting when I can...
reid