I would still consider this a success story,since you done all the scouting one of your party got the deer intended .I'm sure if there's one good buck there there will also be another one and might even be a bigger one .These good deed's usually have a way of working out for both parties .The thiing here is if you didn't want them to get the chance of taking your deer you should have not said anything about it .But it's nice to see a family member score on his first deer this way and I'm sure your very proud of him .You've done a good deed and a greater power will now look out for you.Good luck and I'm sure your time is coming.
Just to let you know I don't consider this whining ,I think this is just your way of telling us how proud of your nephew you really are.

nubo