RE: Whats the best gun for elk & deer for a female?
Lots of good advice so far, but I didn't see anyone mention the action. A semi-auto will use up some of that energy to work the action, thereby reducing felt recoil.
Wimp? My hat's off to any female in the field.
If you're buying new, let me know when you find the rifle you want. I might be able to save you some money.
Good luck with whatever you decide.