But your wife DID get to where she could handle a 40 pound bow, right? Any healthy person can develop plenty of strength to shoot a legal bow. It takes some work and some dues paying, but that's always been part and parcel of archery and bowhunting.
Same applies to weakling kids. Get the little imps off the XBox or Playstation and out shooting bows and they'll get up to 40 pound bows in no time. Side benefit, we wouldn't have this national epidemic of fat little flourdumpling kids.
No need to comment further on the bad shoulders stuff. I can't add any more to what I said above.
Instead of taking the descrimination away and the hurdles that impede success and recovery you just offer them some support
What, and let them continue through life ashamed of their disabilities? That is not recovery, that's denial. It only makes matters worse, and either prolongs or prevents recovery. Get them to face up to their misplaced shame, conquer it and move on with their lives. I had a helluva time struggling through that when I became disabled. It's been 14 years and I still feel odd parking in a handicapped spot.
Maybe you should speak only to something you know about.