RE: 9mm recoil compare
Hmm don't know.
I've shot my 9mm and my 45 during the same session and can barely tell the difference in the recoil- though the 45 is a bit heavier gun. Haven't shot a .38 in about 15 years but don't remember it recoiling very much.
*shug*They all feel the same to me until up until the magnum sized cartridges.