Hi ELKampMaster,
There's nothing in the world wrong with big guns. And you'll never hear me suggest to anyone that they should stay away from them. Unless I've seen them shoot.....and know they are afraid of their rifle, shotgun, etc. and as a result.....
can't shoot!
I use and beleive in heavy calibers....and heavy bullets. But if you can't shoot them....don't use them. I have a brother-in-law that is a perfect example. He weighs over 300 pounds....is afraid of his .30-06, flinches....and can't shoot it worth a dang. He was better off with a .270 Winchester he had a number of years ago. And truth be told....he'd been better still with something like a .260 Remington or a .257 Roberts.
Whatever gun you use....make sure you can actually shoot it! That's all! I shot a 12 gauge well before I was 12, (the legal hunting age in Pennsylvania). But my recoil tolerance, your recoil tolerance....has little to do with anyone else's recoil tolerance.
Not every nail takes a sledge....I use a "tack hammer on tacks!"