RE: Which Caliber For 9yr Old
If the LOP was too long on the youth 20 GA it will probably br too long on the rifle as well. My son uses the NEF youth .243 it's a very accurate gun and worth a look.
I don't by into he'll out grow it though ( as far as caliber) if the .243 will kill a deer when he's 10 it will still kill deer when he's 100 or passed it to his grand children.
I still carry my .243 at times ( I've a bumb shoulder and use what I feel comfortable with for the day)