Those little 40cal XTPs do just fine with milder loads like 80gr of Pyro. I like shooting resized Gould 458 HPs best for mild loads just because they are cheap and whack the snot out of deer. Cast in pure lead they are about 346gr and retain nearly all their weight with 70ish grain loads of powder. Expansion is huge too.

Like many TCs you might have problems getting conicals to shoot with a QLA. Easiest solution is cut the petals off of sabots and use the sabot base as a wad. This gives the conical time to get past the QLA and keeps the hot gas from going around the side.