Rather than getting wrapped up with a particular bullet weight or brand, I suggest you shoot as many different weights and brands as you can and see what groups best in your rifle. Let that dictate what you use rather than any hype you see in a magazine or a forum. Deer simply aren't that tough and any modern 30 caliber soft point from 130 grs up that you stick into a deer's chest will kill the deer.
As to Barnes, yes they are a good bullet but that doesn't mean your rifle will shoot them well. Some rifles do well with them and some don't. Each rifle is an individual when it comes to things like that. For instance, I have a 7mm Mag that is spooky accurate with both Noslers and Hornadys but it won't group Barnes worth a darn. I handload and I have never been able to get a better group than 2 inches with the Barnes. Rather than continue to waste my time with the Barnes I simply load the Noslers and go hunting.