RE: Disgruntled Wifes Dilemna....
Debbie,
It sounds like you have gotten some really good advice. I can't add much.
My best suggestion is to try to locate a shop that is big enough to carry a wide variety of draw weights and draw lengths in several different bows. There aren't that many but they are around. The local shop I tend to frequent has a decent selection of bows in general and at least 6 or 7 bows that are in the "mid range" between a youth bow and a typical male adult bow. Granted, they don't have every top of line Parker, PSE and Hoyt in that range but there are at least one from each major brand so the consumer can at least get a rough idea of the differences.
Though I have never been there I would tend to believe that Len's shop is probably one of those places that carries alot of bows in alot of sizes and has knowledgable people to help you.
I am sure there are probably other shops within a few hours drive from where you live...the tricky part is finding them.
If I were in your situation I would probably head to some of the manufacturer websites that have a listing of their dealers in your state and surrounding states and start making some phone calls.
Ask them how many bows they have in stock and if they have any bows with your particular specs in stock. The only thing it will cost you is a little time and the cost of the call.
I hope this helps some.....and I apologize for not being able to help more.