She will never give that child up. He is her meal ticket. She uses him to live everywhere for free. She's done that for 8 yrs. Also now she gets Ray's SS for Trace. She loves Trace in her own way, but is just not a good parent. She see's nothing wrong with letting him stay up until 3 or 4 in the morning on school nights and thinks nothing of pulling him out of school so they can go on a trip for a week or two. When we got custody of Trace in 2010 he had missed 37 days of school and had 52 tardies in one year. The school had SARB'ed her 3 times but the sheriff would not serve the papers to fine her as "they had better things to do". Literally the child was stunned when he found out that you had to take a shower everyday, not just Sundays. (true! no lie, he only showered on Sundays and if wanted to on Wednesdays, but only if he wanted to). If he didn't like what was for dinner he could have a litre of soda and a family size bag of chips instead. He lives at Disneyland and unfortunately at the age of 10 is not going to choose to live somewhere where he has to go to bed at a decent time, shower everyday, make his own bed, do his homework and go to school everyday. As of April 17th, he had missed 1 day of school and he was on the principle honor roll, almost straight A's. Ray was so proud of him. I am visiting him every week and will continue to do so. Mom won't let me have a second alone with him, but I hope that will change with time. Trace trusts me and has always felt he could talk to me. If I can have alone time, he will let things slip that, hopefully will help me get custody of him. She can keep the SS. I just want Trace to have a chance at a decent, normal life.