Since you are new to handguns the best thing for you to do is practice, practice, practice. You definately jumped in with both feet in your choice of a 44 Mag, but since you already have it you can get yourself some 44 Special ammo and practice with reduced recoil. A 44 Mag is a handful for a novice. You will just have to stick with it and your shooting will improve, provided you avoid developing a flinch.