RE: Not having a ' trophy' mounted- Is it Disrespect?
I say absolutely not! Only you can make that kind of choice. Whether you shoulder mount it, mount the rack only, or throw the rack away, it' s up to you. I look at it as, if you use the meat and not waste it, then you' ve shown respect to the animal. You can' t eat antlers anyway.
But, if you truly have no desire to do anything with the rack, let it go so someone else can shoot it that may want to have it mounted, and take a doe or smaller deer instead.
I take it your wife doesn' t want a head on her walls in the living room or den? Do like I did. I told mine that if I couldn' t hang it in the living room, I' d hang it over the bed. It sits proudly on a living room wall as we speak.