I think the big differance is-When I go bowhunting,I go to my cabin (which is 4 hours north) obviously I`m not coming back for 4-7 days which in her line of work she just can`t do (I`m a self-employed contractor-do what I want,when I want) She has a great job,makes a ton of money,went to collage for 5 years and what`not,so that should`nt change,and in this stage of our relationship (having been together for 2 1\2 years) she`s still working out the "controling" issues. BUT us guys need to be us guys!