I've hunted Pa my entire life and I would have to recommend NY. Not that Pa doesn't have any deer and not that some of the deer can't be monsters. I just think that in your situation NY seems to make more sense. First off, you can visit family which seems important to you (as it should be). Second, you can hunt Sundays in NY and in Pa you can't. If your taking a one time trip I'd want to maximize the days I could hunt.