I'm looking to buy a Glock pistol for concealed carry but cant decide which one to get. I plan on using it quite a bit for target shooting (not tournament)so I want it to be accurate a user friendly i.e, not kill my wrists from recoil. I don't own and have never owned a handgun and don't know much about them in the first place. A buddy of mine own's several handguns and I have shot one of his .40 cal semi's and that thing kicks and I couldn't hit the broad side of a barn because every time I would pull the trigger I would flinch because I knew what was coming! I have never shot a 9mm but I assume they don't have as much recoil as a .40 cal. Everyone I talk to tells me I should get a .40 cal because it has more knock down power yada yada yada but I don't ever (God forbid)plan on shooting anyone. I just want something that shoots nice and is easy to use and that is compact to carry. I am looking to get either the Glock 19 (9mm) or the 23 (.40 cal).

What do you guy's think??? Is there any difference in recoil on these two, which would be the better pick for what I want?