As you guys see I too struggle with this, I know full well it's easy to type absolutes like "I will not" or "I'd never" but the truth is we don't TRULY know what we would do until it happens and as to date this hasn't happened to me
I disagree. You shouldn't use the term "we". Stick with "I". I know I would never trespass on another persons land to shoot or recover a deer. As others have said, it's just a deer. Big or small. If I caught someone tresspassing on my land, they're paying the price. If they knocked on my door and asked permission to recover their animal, I'd gladly give it. Anybody putting a stand on a property line is fully intending to trespass. They know full well that there's a strong possibility that deer will get onto someone else's property, even if they have no intention of shooting across said property line.