charming for me was never the problem either! it was always after i was with them, and ...... well i hit a point where i was imposible to be around and really ended up just hurting myself! but i didnt live in a small town and girls still talked, just means that more knew, so i would talk to them and have no problem, and even convince them i wasnt all that bad that i was built up to be.....after two weeks i guess they realized i was! not proud of those days, but at least they are in the past!