RE: bullet wts
I don' t know about the exploding bullets like the tnt or hollow points for deer but i' ve had great success with the soft points in a lighter bullet from my 30.06. I' ve been loading the Hornady 130 SP for about 5 years now and have killed many deer with it from close up to long range and it' s extremely accurate. The recoil is also a little lighter with the lighter grain bullet which helps when making long shots. I' ve never lost a deer with this bullet and the majority of the one' s i' ve shot fell in their tracks and the few that did run didn' t run very far at all. I' ve only had a couple of these bullets that didn' t give complete pass throughs and they were shoulder shots and the bullet was lodged in the skin on the opposite side of where i shot the deer and they were still in tact and a nice mushroom. I use to think i needed a heavy bullet but a couple of my friends who shoot light bullets in their 7mm mag talked me into going lighter and i have no regrets. A good friend of mine took a trip to Kentucky last year and killed a huge buck with a 100grn Partition out of his 6mm and i know others who shoot nothing but a 243 and 100grn bullets and kill deer regularly. I think the key is bullet design and shot placement. As long as you put it in the vitals it' s gonna kill.
My pet load for my rifle is....
Hornady 130grn Spire Point
Remington Brass
52 grns IMR 4064
CCI 200 Primer
Bullet seated .008 off the lands
Good Luck!