RE: 20 gauge too big?
Your 20 shoud be fine for you. When I was your age I was a lot lighter and I shot a 12 ga SxS with double triggers. And being lefty, I sometimes shot off both barrels and occasionally had to pick myself back up off my butt - seriously.
For practicing, stick with the light loads. You can use the heavier loads for hunting and honestly you won't feel the recoil too much.