Get her a Desert Eagle 44 Auto Mag, LOL, just kidding!!!!. I got my wife a Charter Arms Undercover.38spl. For practice she uses regular 125gr.38spl for the light recoil "keeps up confidence", just befor she ends a session she loads up a couple of +P rounds and shoots them for a reality check of the difference in recoil!, she carries with the 125gr +P loads. Charter Arms has come a long way with their quality, her pistol has around 500 rounds through it and its just as tight as when she got it!, they are a good alternative to a Smith&Wesson when money is a concern!.