If there is no trust on your part, than its only going to create more arguements, jealously, insecurity and possibly deep fights with her. In turn, this will eventually drive such a wedge between the both of you that there will be no working it out, or letting "time heal the wounds
This is good advice! I went through this once with my wife early on in our marriage. That was 12 years ago! Sometimes you can get alot of relief by talking it out sometimes you can't. But you both will have to be completely honest and not hold back anything. She needs to understand that this talk is either going to be the beginning of a new start or the beginning of the end. Sorry to put it that way, but its hard to give advise of thisnature on a computer screen. I hope it works out for you.