RE: 7mm-08 rcoil
Any kid that can handle slug recoil ( 20 and 12 aren't that much different) shouldn't have a problem with any high power up to the mags. I live in Iowa where we have to hunt with slugs for the most part, and it's good training for handling recoil. As was mentioned above, get a rifle that fits, chances are you won't be able to keep him away from it.
Good Huntin'